Does Your Life Need An Overhaul?

​Find out about: why so many of us are stressed, tired & run-down; some behaviours that dramatically impact how you feel (including one BIG thing that you can do straight away!); and the steps you can do to overhaul your life.

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​JUST BREATHE​

STOP. Right now. We need to talk about something super important. We need to talk about YOU. Try this.

Take a big breath in.
Exhale.
Exhale some more.
Exhale again.
Keep exhaling.
Have you got anything left?
HOLD IT.
Keep Holding.
Really PUSH yourself to hold your breath until you can’t hold it anymore.
​Notice how you FEEL.

NOW BREATHE IN. (notice how good that feels?)

Have you noticed something? SO MANY OF US operate our lives like this. Always busy, busy, busy! Always on the run. Rushing here, rushing there. Tired, stressed & working hard. Running on empty or half-full most of the time. Exhaling too much and inhaling too little. COULD REALLY USE A BREAK! And then we break (maybe only once a year for a holiday) and we finally breathe in.

Have you ever felt like that? I sure have.

​3 MONTHS AGO

If I had to describe my life 3 months ago, I was treading water. I was trying to balance everything in life, and thought I was doing an OK job. My health was OK; I had time with my family & friends; I was working as a trainer and also spending time on 1GNITION; I was exercising; I was spending time on preparation and planning, and of course had some down time for myself.

But was I truly happy. NO.
Was I stressed? YES
Was I sleeping well? NO
Was I busy? YES
Was I tired? YES
Was I often distracted? YES
Was I making any real progress with my life? NO
Was I spending time on things that truly mattered in my life? NO

Truth be told, I was spending so much time breathing out (metaphorically speaking, side note: The Mask, anyone? 😛) and not enough quality time breathing in. So I spent some time doing a little self-discovery, and decided to change.

​TODAY

​In the last couple of weeks I’ve had 8 ABSOLUTELY AMAZING days, and 2 not so good day (that was yesterday). But here’s the kicker. I’ve become so deeply engaged (ok, it’s a borderline healthy obsession!) in learning about human behaviour, that I can tell you EXACTLY how and why each day ended up like that. More on that later.

​A couple of weeks ago I had what I call an Einstein moment. You know when there’s something you’ve been trying to figure out and it just clicks or sinks in? Yeah. Well times that by three. I had three Einstein moments!! All in the same day. How did it happen, you might ask? Well, it is largely due to the behaviours I’ve put in place over the last three months, which ADD MASSIVE VALUE to my existence. And through all the changes I’ve been through recently (there has been plenty!) there are three behaviours, which have had the biggest impact.

​B​EHAVIOURS & HABITS

  • Meditation
  • Gratitude
  • Personal Development

These are the behaviours that I’m working on turning into habits. I’ve been doing Personal Development stuff for years, but not with any REAL consistency. Meditation & Gratitude started about a year ago - again, not consistent.

These three behaviours, when done regularly, yield amazing positive results, but when combined with two others… Wow. REAL magic starts to happen. The other two are: 

  • Exercise/Daily Movement
  • Whole Foods (a diet that is predominantly focused on this anyway).

There are of course, many other important aspects of our lives which largely contribute to how we feel on a daily basis, but I’m not here to talk about them. I’m here to talk about...

​YOU

When was the last time you took a deep, belly breath? Other than the one that you did earlier. When was the last time you actually stopped and did nothing? When was the last time you sat down in a park or by the ocean, by yourself, observing the world. No music. No books. No conversation with others. Just you? When was the last time you sat down to figure out exactly what you want in your life and how you’re going to get there. For most of us we don’t have time, right?

I call bullsh*t on your excuse. Yeah, I said it. Did that make you uncomfortable? Are you a little angry, mad maybe? You don’t like me saying that, do you? But it’s true. You have just as many hours in the day as anybody else, and what you do, and everything you have in your life right is completely made up because of your choices. Your responsibility at work - choice. Your responsibility to your partner or kids - choice. How you feel right now - choice.

But of course you have time to feel lazy, stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, tired, angry, run down don’t you? Most likely you’ve a few hours per week on social media, catching up with friends, watching TV or eating food that gives instant gratification, but ultimately doesn’t make you feel good long-term. 

These are just some of the choices we make, but it is interesting to note that how we spend our time will either improve the way we feel, or further add to the stress of our lives. 

And chances are if you’re feeling stressed, tired and run down, you’re also not doing the list of things mentioned above. Or you’re doing them, but not regularly. You are prioritising everything else but yourself, aren’t you? You are often prioritising others ahead of your own needs, aren’t you. Yes, there are times where you need to do this, but what about time for you?

After over 14 years as a trainer, group fitness instructor and more recently as a coach, I’ve learned something.

YOU CAN ONLY GIVE OUT WHAT YOU ALREADY HAVE.

This is just as true for objects as it is for emotions.
If you have a glass of water and you drink it, you have nothing left in the glass (until you refill it, of course!)
If you give all of your energy out to others, you have none left for yourself.
If you allocate all of your time to being busy, running around doing as much as possible, you have nothing left for yourself.

And what happens if you have nothing left for yourself? You become tired, stressed, lazy, run down etc. You get the idea. And when this continues to build up without any release? Health issues. Weight (although important) is just but one of them. Just because you’re a size six or have a six pack means jack unless you have good health behind it. You can look physically amazing but be incredibly stressed or have a poor mindset because you’re so obsessed without how you look. Skin conditions, anxiety, depression (and SO many more!) do not just favour those who look physically fit - they favour people who look truly look after themselves.

True health starts from within. And how do you do that? ​Well, there’s so much to it, but you can start by learning to...

​BREATHE PROPERLY

If you’ve got this far, you might as well try it now.
Read this next bit first, and then go for it. You’ll need 10 minutes.

  1. Turn off your phone or put it on flight mode.

  2. Write down all of the things currently on your mind right now, (I find this helps enormously with Step 5), and acknowledge how you feel

  3. Sit down in a quiet place (or as quiet as possible). Alternatively, tune into this Spotify Playlist and plug in some headphones.

  4. Close your eyes and take long, slow, deep breaths in and out through your nose, so that your belly rises and falls. A relaxed breath.

  5. Try to clear your mind from all your thoughts. If a thought comes up, acknowledge it, and return back to clearing your mind.

  6. Do this for 10 minutes and acknowledge how you feel.

If you feel less stressed after this activity - well done! You’ve made a positive difference to how you feel by stopping for a moment and giving some time to yourself. Schedule this in tomorrow, first thing in the morning is best! Try to schedule it every day.

If you feel more stressed after this activity: it’s a sign. You’ve got so much on that you struggle to sit still and take 10 minutes out for yourself. You might have it together now, but if you keep going at this pace you’re going to burn out.

If you skipped this activity, just stop breathing again for a while and help yourself get the message of just how important breathing is. And you can tell yourself you already breathe properly so there’s no need to do it, but chances are that if you skipped this activity too, you also love doing things properly. In which case, go back to the start of the page and start again and read it properly. Seriously. Deep down you know a burn out is around the corner if you’re in this position, and you just can’t wait for a release.

​DOES YOUR LIFE NEED AN OVERHAUL?

If anything that you’ve read or done has spoken to you, (in that D&M kinda way!) then there’s probably something you want to change.

Below, you’ll find the steps to overhauling your life.

  1. Write down what’s important to you.
  2. List anything in your life right now that you dislike.
  3. Figure out how much time you spend on each part of your life.
  4. Change, remove or reduce the amount of time you spend on anything in your life that’s not helping you achieve what you want (hint: TV, social media, jobs or people that drain you, your energy or your time).
  5. With your new found free time, schedule in AT LEAST 1 hour a day for yourself to meditate, practise gratitude, train, or prepare food that supports your body. This might mean getting up an hour earlier, so you're not interrupted.

​Do this every day for 30 days and see how you feel. Granted, there will be some days you'll miss completely or only get half an hour in. That's ok. Do what you can. If you miss more than 2 or 3 days in a row, ​read over what you  If you have trouble with any of the steps above or can’t stay consistent and you know that it’s time to change, ​seek some assistance for someone who can help.

So why did I have so many amazing days last week and why did I have a not so good day? Because of my choices. I chose to spend time on that which adds value to my life and makes me grow. The behaviours I mentioned above are just some of the things I do on a regular basis to keep me feeling full of energy, motivated and alive. The days I miss a few or most of these behaviours? I’m stressed, unhappy, anxious, filled with overwhelm & doubt and make little-no progress and drawn to eat food that comforts my immediate emotion rather than eating to support my body.

​So what's it going to be? Are you ready to change? ​

You know what to do. Best you get started, now.

Adam Cox

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